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11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. (Thanks to mammastrout for posting this Bible verse.)
Pain is a real drain. Most of us, when we are feeling emotional or physical pain, are not acting on our best behavior. In fact, our hurt frequently causes us to create hurt for others. Right?
When are you most likely to hurt another person — on a day when you are feeling super or on a day when you feel lousy? That’s right. We are most likely to bark out in anger and growl at others on those bad days.
So? So, help me out here. Get some help for that pain so that you will treat me (and everybody else who has to be around you) better.
After all, the best gift that you can give your family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and the world itself — is a positive, happy you! So take some time for yourself. Lighten up. Lay your burden down. Have some simple fun like a walk in a park or a plunge in a pool.
And don’t tackle your pain alone. Get some help. Talk to a friend about it — or a pastor. Most of all call upon God. Let your pain make you desperate for a supernatural relationship with the living, resurrected Jesus.
Think of someone who is hurting more than you and go help and/or listen to that person. Go into a nursing home or school or a day care or a hospital or a jail and volunteer to spend time with lonely people. It will work wonders for you if you will try it.
Begin today. Let your pain motivate you to seek genuine healing rather than settling for mere denial or attempting to numb the pain with constant activity and/or chemicals.
I like the scene in the movie, “What About Bob”, where Bob grabs Leo and says something like: ”Help me. Please, please, please, I hurt!” Bob desperately wanted help and healing. And he got it (although in a rather round about way).
Maybe you have accepted your pain and lived with it so long that you have no hope of ever living without it. But please reconsider. Why not take a positive step toward a hopeful future today? |
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| Nice blog Steve...Hurting people do have a tendency to hurt other people...That's why it's important for us to stay in the WORD of God to keep focused....If we feast upon the Word of God on a consistent basis, He promised us that our JOY would be full....and then He goes on to say that the JOY of THE LORD is our strength...So whether we have good days..or bad days...other people will not be affected by what's going on in our life. I wish we didn't have bad days...but we do...and as servants of the Most High God, we are to represent Him at all times...On our bad days...that may be the one person who comes our way that needs JESUS the most.....So thanks for the reminder to stay focused, and if need be.....get some help ;o) |
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| hey Steve, Good blog. Living with pain is not easy! I tend to make jokes or write goofy blogs when I feel it the most. The last time I was in pain, I thought of 3 families at church and cooked them all a meal. It helps! Patti |
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| That is a fine word and learned that lesson about a year ago. Until then I have never heard the phrase. Just like a wounded animal. Though they trust you, and may love you very much, there self preservation mode kicks in and can tear you open when you are only trying to help. Great advice...............Go see Dr. Jesus! |
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I would give you 20 stars if I could! Being stuck in emotional overload is no fun for anyone--I agree, take a positive step toward healing instead of unloading a negative bomb on someone undeserving of your personal frustration with life!
The bible teaches us to 'take every thought into captivity' meaning--slow down and examine your own thoughts, your self-talk, and then bring them into submission to the mindset of Christ. It sounds difficult, but it's really not. It's really just examining your thoughts against what Christ taught and then deciding to try it His way. It's a choice--and a simple one at that. (and much easier than running around burdened with self-loathing because you're so mean you even hate being around yourself.) Give it up! Try kindness, gentleness, meekness--people may even hug you! |
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So true Steve; this happens a lot, we strike out when in pain and anger...
you are right that give us no right to lay it on someone else.
I myself have to work on this. I've done this and felt badly about it...I am glad it dosen't happen
that often, but once is to much... God bless you Steve this is a good blog... gives food for thought,thats for sure... |
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| Thank you very much Steve I have just been through what you describe and it is not a nice place to be...you have confirmed what the Lord has been saying to me..Thanks, love s. |
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Mar Jay: Daily reading the Word like a love letter from God brings great release from pain.
It really works, doesn't it, Patti? Cooking for those families made you feel much better.
Bro. Todd: Touch the hem of Dr. Jesus' garmet.
Thanks, KY.
Birdie: Controlling our self-talk is very important. Negative self-talk is a source of much of our pain. If we are unkind to ourself, we won't be kind to others.
Marilyn: Thanks for munching on my "food for thought."
Beautiful Scripture, mammastrout.
s: Glad I could confirm something for you.
Thank you all for the enthusiastic comments and stars. May you find His peace today. |
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P.S. mommastrout.
That verse fits this blog so well that I am going to post it at the top. Thank you again for sharing it with me. |
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My Brother Steve,
You are so right and thank God for you willingness to share
what God has given you for the people...Because hurt people
do hurt others and some people hurt people and they don't
realize because they think they are speaking true but we
also have to be aware of how and what we say ...because we
can be giving Godly counsel but if it is said wrong we can cause more damage
Thank you for that word it was very timely..... |
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August 18, 2008 at 11:56am |
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Amen brother!!!
Trauma is my specialty and in this area helping others with intense pain is not always easy. Thanks for your wisdom! |
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Thanks for the great comment, Sista.
Thank you, Cheryl. |
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I agree! Selfish people hurt others too! And they don't have to be hurting at all! There are some people Christians included who are so empty you just can't pour enough into them, they suck the life out of you...there are also the lonley and there is nothing wrong with that exept it can be draining for others...
We are created to need each other but I do have only so much I can put out if I am not full enough myself and that is a great thing for each of us to remind ourselves of! GREAT BLOG! |
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| hello brothers and sisters, my name is lu. some of u might have received a message from me before, sorry to bother u again, but i started a new account so im sending out another message to find like minded people. i myself love the word of God, and i love to share the revelation that i receive from Dad. im looking for others who feel the same if that's u please send me a friend request. if not no hard feelings. God bless -Lu |
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Steve,
You indeed are right. Hurting peolpe str`ike out in their pain. I am ministering to a church member right now who is very angry at the loss of her loved one. |
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| I know you will help her with God helping you, revestarr. |
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Joey |
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September 30, 2008 at 2:48pm |
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| Some people are harsh with their words, and excuse themselves by saying, "you knew that I was this way when you married me", or "just get over it". What then, Steve? What if neither party was hurting when the remarks were made. |
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| Forgiveness and compassion are still called for, even then, Joey. |
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